Sometimes Love Languages Mesh
I LOVE the Love Languages! I firmly believe that learning about your loved one’s love languages is incredibly important in showing them how much you care. I am a quality time person. Hands down, totally and completely!
As much as I know that I’m a quality time person, I also know that I am least of all a gifts person. I really don’t like stuff so getting me a gift to show me your love is absolutely pointless. It’s more stressful than loving.
But wait… All that is said and then I go back and live differently than what I say is true. I adore when Nate gets me flowers. I love when someone brings by a coffee, even if it’s just to drop it off. I am so grateful when someone in my life gives me the perfect Birthday present. That sure sounds like gifts to me, don’t you think?
The thing is, it’s not the gift that makes me happy. It’s the quality time someone put into getting me the gift. It’s knowing that I was on someone’s heart and mind and that they intentionally picked out something that I love! They spent time on me, even when I wasn’t there and that brings absolute joy to my heart. If I can’t be with someone (which I absolutely prefer) I love knowing that they still spent time on me.
If someone disregarded the fact that a portion of my love of quality time is knowing that the other person is spending time on me outside of our time together then they would miss out on a piece of my heart. When Nate has to spend the night out of town I don’t get that quality time with him but bringing home a bouquet of flowers – more specifically, a bouquet of flowers from a place I had told him I had always wanted flowers from (Pike’s Place Market in Seattle) – brought joy to my heart and let me see that he was spending time on me even while we were apart.
Dig into your loved one’s love languages. Get to know what brings them joy. Discover what makes them feel loved. But don’t forget to think beyond the boundaries of the specific love language. Even the love language they least associate themselves with have aspects that will speak to their hearts! I promise it will only make your relationship stronger!