All over the internet there are posts about having a morning routine with your kids. These posts are titled things like “How to Have the Best Morning Ever” or “A Life Changing Morning Routine.” Since I’m all about working toward making life more intentional, I thought it would be great to figure out a morning routine for my boys and me. Night after night I prepared for the next morning, planning out what time the boys would get up, what we’d do throughout the morning, and how it would benefit us. Morning after morning the boys wouldn’t comply with my plans and would make my desired routine fall apart.
Now that fall has started back up, our lives are busier than they had been over the summer. Three nights a week we are out of the house doing church events, two mornings a week we have to be out of the house early to get to events, Nate’s days off are Saturday and Monday… Our weeks have routine but our days do not. Why would I expect a two year old to follow a morning routine when our mornings are never the same.
The intentional morning I was trying to have was only making my family more stressed and causing me to be disappointed every morning. I realized that there was a beauty in the lack of routine my boys and I experienced. When I was able to take a step back, I could see how wonderful the lack of routine with my boys truly was. Our lack of routine WAS our routine!
Once I accepted that my boys and I are horrible with routine, our mornings became peaceful, fun, and getting ready to get out the door became so much easier!
The biggest thing I learned was that I needed to figure out the things that ARE our routine. I needed to sit back and think about how we would spend our mornings consistently even though consistency wasn’t going to be key to the morning… If that makes sense.
Here are a few things that are consistent for our mornings…
1. We are a family who loves our sleep. We do what we can to not wake up before we have to. I’ve been getting up around seven to do some personal morning things and, if the boys wake up during that time, Nate’s on kiddo duty. Unless we have to get out of the house at a certain time, we let sleeping boys sleep!
2. Caleb is a creature of habit. When Caleb wakes up in the morning, his first thought is that he needs his cup of juice. His juice is like coffee for his daddy and me. He’s basically not lucid without it. Since I want Caleb to start his day hydrated, we’ve recently been giving him the BRAND NEW Welch’s coconut water grape juice that has the same taste as 100% juice with 30% less sugar! Perfect for my toddler (and, if I’m being honest, ME!). The juice has great taste and refreshing goodness! If you’re looking for the juice, check out which store sells it here.
3. Once Caleb has his juice, we have to read at least one book. Even when we need to get out the door, we do our best to try to read before heading out! I believe that it’s critical for kids to be read to every day and, since Caleb loves being read to, we start our day out with it! (And then read a million books throughout the day while we’re at it…) Often we read Caleb’s Children’s Bible during that time but sometimes he’s insistent that we read a different book and I’m happy to oblige.
4. It’s impossible to get Caleb to eat when he’s not interested so I let him take the lead as to when we have breakfast. Around eight, I’ll start suggesting to him that we have breakfast and at some point he’ll agree. I typically try to have breakfast with him but sometimes he’s not hungry when I’m ready for it so I’ll eat on my own. It changes day by day but allowing him to decide when he’s hungry is what works for us.
Yes, none of these things are what others would consider “routine” but it’s the routine that works for us. I encourage each of you to do the same, figure out your routine and don’t worry what others say you should do in the mornings with your kids. There’s nothing wrong with making your lack of routine be your routine!
How do you feel about the idea of coconut water grape juice?
What kind of morning routine do you have with your kids?