Martha and Me

May 2, 2013

(This was originally posted quite a while ago when I had about 10 followers.  It’s something I feel my readers now will appreciate and something I was recently reminded of for myself so I’m reposting it) I have often struggled with how unemotional my faith is.  I see people jumping up and down during worship, praying amazingly deep prayers, or witnessing to someone from a deep place that I don’t even think I possess.  I have asked myself so many times, “Am I doing something wrong?  Do I not truly and deeply love my God, the Creator of the Universe?”  I think I do, and then I am surrounded by others who weep, laugh, or dance when they feel overcome with God’s goodness, and I wonder if I’m missing something. I relate to God in a much different way.  I am an intellectual when it comes to my relationship with the Lord.  I love learning deep truth from Scripture.  I feel most alive spiritually when I am talking to someone with whom I care deeply about what I am learning regarding the Lord and what He is doing in my life.  I question worship songs that are not Biblically accurate, I question what pastors or teachers preach/teach if they can not back up what they say in the Word, and I love learning deep truths about my Savior. Still, sometimes I feel like there must be something missing in my faith. This past week, I was in a class discussing how to minister to women in pain.  At the end of the class, we looked at the life of Jesus and how He ministered to those in pain in John 11. Basically, the story goes like this… Jesus was friends with a sibling group – Mary, Martha, and Lazarus – and Lazarus got sick while Jesus wasn’t nearby.  A messenger came, telling Him that His friend was sick, but Jesus decided to stay put for two more days before heading to Bethany, where the siblings lived.  During this time, Lazarus died and was buried. 

When Jesus was just about there, Martha heard He was coming and ran out to Him.  She said “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.  But even now I know that whatever you ask from God, God will give you. (vs 21-22)”  Jesus and Martha then got into a discussion about the resurrection and when exactly Lazarus would rise from the dead – whether then, or in the last days.  Their discussion ends with Martha exclaiming “Yes, Lord; I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who is coming into the world. (us 27)”

Next, Mary comes to Jesus.  Mary fell at Jesus’ feet and said to Him, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. (vs 32)”  Jesus didn’t say anything to her but simply cried alongside her, showing His pain and His love. OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA


  • Chelsea Phelps

    May 2, 2013 at 1:28 pm

    I love this post! The story of Mary and Martha both relying on God and having faith in different ways is such a great reminder not to compare your relationship with God to another's. I think we have all struggled with this, but it's so good to remember that God created us each for a unique way of worship. Love it!

  • Southern Gal

    May 2, 2013 at 2:24 pm

    I, too, am a Martha created by God to serve and love Him. This is a great post.

  • Amy

    May 2, 2013 at 2:24 pm

    I've never realized the piece you mentioned within the passage.
    Both had faith, both knew that Jesus was the son of God, the healer, the savior….and they had faith that if He had been present Lazarus would have been healed…and not died.
    I learned long ago that emotion is not the "expression" or the "end all be all" for your faith.
    Sometimes, i'm not emotional in my faith…and it makes me feel "disconnected" from God. THat is straight from the enemy. He wants us to feel disconnected.
    The truth is, your emotional outpouring has nothing to do with your relationship with Jesus.

  • Ginny

    May 2, 2013 at 2:33 pm

    I never really thought of it like this, I really enjoyed reading this, Susannah 🙂

  • Sandra Martinez

    May 2, 2013 at 4:29 pm

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    Beautiful pictures and it is indeed an amazing post!! 🙂
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  • Nadiya

    May 2, 2013 at 6:33 pm

    Thanx for sharing the story. I think that all of us are different and have a different way of believing. Personally, I don't think there's one right way so just stick with what works feels right for you.

  • Katie

    May 2, 2013 at 7:03 pm

    brave post 🙂 glad you decided to share it again with us who started to read your blog later! God made all of us to be different and so we have different strengths and weaknesses and different ways of relating to Him…

  • Julia Z

    May 2, 2013 at 8:33 pm

    I love this post! Isn't it wonderful to have a savior who wants us to share our faith in whatever way we want? He never judges us or tries to make us someone we aren't, he made us to worship and wants you to learn from those Mary's and wants the Mary's to learn from you!

  • Becky Dougherty

    May 2, 2013 at 9:02 pm

    This is a beautiful post. And it's one I really appreciate. I used to be more emotional in my faith and worship, and sometimes, I still can be. But it's also so good to be reminded that even when I'm more intellectually worshipping, God is ok with that, too!

    It also reminds me of teaching. Not all students learn in the same way. As a teacher, I try to offer a variety of ways for my students to learn concepts through learning styles that suit them. God is the same way with us, as this passage reveals.

    So awesome. 🙂

  • Sybil@PeaceitallTogether

    May 2, 2013 at 10:16 pm

    Yep, that's me. I am Martha, too. Although, I do feel that since I started blogging, my writing has expressed much more emotion about the Lord than I have ever felt before. To me, writing is just another form of worship.

  • Sakuranko

    May 3, 2013 at 12:20 am

    Thank you very much for sharing your beliefs with your readers. Your Faith is very nice. However much I personally questioned the Bible and the facts there related.

  • tiarenie

    May 3, 2013 at 12:41 am

    This is so interesting. I love your perspective! I always thought that the really emotional people at church were just more religious than me but i guess thats not really true. We are all unique in our relationships, including our relationship with God!

  • christina

    May 3, 2013 at 6:44 pm

    so good. thanks for sharing!!

  • Callie Nicole

    May 5, 2013 at 9:11 pm

    I love this post! I'm not extremely emotional in my faith either, but just because we aren't always as emotional doesn't mean we aren't as close to the Lord or as passionate about our faith as those who are! Thanks for sharing this. 🙂

  • Chantel Klassen

    February 21, 2014 at 2:40 pm

    Love this!! I'm not an emotional person either, I always thought it was maybe the way I was brought up. My parents are both very strong believers but never the emotional kind either.

  • Christina Schergen

    February 21, 2014 at 4:09 pm

    gooood stuff! something we need to leep in mind everyone deals with pain, grief, and loss differently and there is no wrong way.

  • Our Neck of the Woods

    February 21, 2014 at 7:23 pm

    I have to say that this post really resonated with me. I am like you, and don't often get emotional in church and during worship and have wondered if there is something wrong. It just goes to show you that there are all sorts of people in the world and we are each unique and have our own personalities. If God wanted me to be more emotional, He would have made me that way!

  • Charlene Maugeri

    February 22, 2014 at 12:05 am

    This is so great. I haven't looked at that story this way before either. I even looked it up when you said that both Mary and Martha said "Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died." And sure enough they both said it! How did I miss that? lol Thanks for this. I think I am more of a Martha as well.

  • Jonni

    February 23, 2014 at 7:28 am

    Great post! The Bible is just so AMAZING how each person can go to the same story and be ministered to in a different way, the way they need. God is so good.

  • Leigh

    February 27, 2014 at 3:30 am

    YES! YES and Yes! LOL I totally am able to relate! I tend to be more logical and practical, but I am not any less in love with my Lord and Savior because of my temperament. "He ministers to everyone in the way they need." this reminds me of the scripture in Proverbs "..he that wins souls is wise.." Jesus is so very wise that He will never turn anyone away because they process things differently. He adapts His approach and tailor fits it to each of us! He knows what we need, and provides just that. I continue to marvel at how wonderful the Lord is because of this!! Thanks for sharing, Susannah

    xoxo, Leigh

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