Keeping Marriage Alive

August 2, 2013

Keeping Marriage Alive


  • Amy Simcox

    August 2, 2013 at 1:17 pm

    I completely agree – it's hard to stay in tune with your spouse with a busy schedule! Great suggestions, and the swing dancing sounds like a blast! The hubs and I schedule our weeks w/ iCal and then share our calendars with each other so that when planning outings w/ friends, etc., we can keep up with what the other person is doing. If I'm scheduling a girls' night, I will check the calendar and schedule it for a night when he already has plans too. That way, we maximize days "off" from social functions together.

  • Jen

    August 2, 2013 at 2:54 pm

    It's so hard sometimes for us the Army is a HUGE factor, we try to make the most out of the time we have together.

  • Mrs. M ~ a.k.a. ~ April

    August 2, 2013 at 5:47 pm

    Great! So good! Scheduled sex! (ha ha ha) But in seriousness that does need to happen sometimes. And saying "no" is HUGE! I am realizing that again. And as much as I want to spend time with my friends, they are also learning to say "no" in a sense. They are taking care of their families. What a growing process but a good one!

  • Veronica Lee Burns

    August 2, 2013 at 7:01 pm

    These are great! I wrote today about how Kevin and I keep up even when he does overnights.

  • Becky Dougherty

    August 2, 2013 at 7:54 pm

    These are some amazing tips for how you can stay connected even when your busy. I especially like that on your date night, you leave your cell phones at home. My love language is quality time, and even though Scott and I are together a lot, we aren't always connecting. I would love if we just left our phones at home every now and then so that we can be with ea h other without ay interference!

  • Stephanie @ Life, Unexpectedly

    August 2, 2013 at 8:17 pm

    I definitely see you there! It's hard to just focus on each other, especially if kids are involved as well! That is one reason why I'm lookin forward so much to this week of leaving computers and everything behind to just enjoy being a family and spending time with each other.

  • Z

    August 2, 2013 at 8:29 pm

    Wow those are some good ways.
    its been forevee since we actually…you know..did it.
    With kids things can change. A lot.
    We both really need to get away really…i feel i miss him.
    love to u

  • mj rdn

    August 2, 2013 at 8:43 pm

    good tips..they're like golden rules of A marriage.

  • Katie

    August 2, 2013 at 9:00 pm

    saying no is a hard one but definitely necessary. it's so important to have alone time and its easy for other things to get in the way of that!

  • Ginny

    August 2, 2013 at 10:24 pm

    Definitely important tips, great pst today!

  • Jenna

    August 3, 2013 at 12:52 am

    Such a great list of ideas. I think finding a hobby to do together is such a great idea. It keeps things interesting. This might be weird but Mike and I love finding interesting topics and debating them. It's fun to see what the other one thinks on the subject. Today we listened to a podcast on economics and talked about what we though. It's pretty fun.

  • Jayda

    August 3, 2013 at 4:12 am

    Love this list, girl! Date nights are definitely a big thing for us; it's just so good to get out together and focus on talking and having fun. We're technology free on dates too (with the exception of taking pictures if it's a really fun/memorable one.) Eating dinner together is something that we make a point of doing as often as we can. It gives us a chance to talk about our days, and whatever else might come up 🙂

  • Katrin

    August 3, 2013 at 1:16 pm

    David and I try to text as much as we can during the day. That way we are connected even when we don't see each other the whole day.

  • Charity

    August 3, 2013 at 6:12 pm

    My hubby and I share devotional time together, we also love to travel, see movies, and within the last year we love doing diy projects together. We are learning to build intimacy in different ways each year. This year we have had a lot more time to just be with each other since moving away from our family. In our new state we really only have each other – its been a season of great transformation.

    The Word of A Nerd

  • Ellie Spindler

    August 3, 2013 at 10:49 pm

    Great tips! My favorite is "Center your lives around the Lord." He is the sustainer of marriage.


  • Sarah Pete

    August 3, 2013 at 11:44 pm

    Thanks for your comment on my blog! If I still had cookies, I'd totally mail you some ;]
    Love these simple tips for marriage. We basically do the same. We recently added the date night only because it wasn't until two months ago that we realized we hadn't had one in ages–we were too busy working, moving, or being sick (ugh). Now, we've made a goal to spend a special evening out–dinner and movie or whatever–once a month. We're also attempting to go on hikes/long walks together weekly or so. Forcing yourselves out of the norm is great for reconnecting!
    Have a fabulous weekend!

  • Kim T.

    August 4, 2013 at 12:35 am

    My sweetie and I aren't married yet, but I do see the value in your list. Most mornings he will send me a sweet message when I wake up and at the end of the day he sends me a text that he is in bed. He is not very good at saying no to people, that that is because the people that demand so much of him is his family. Once a year we make time to have a date no matter what. And that is our 'anniversery' of our first date. I look forward to it every year.

  • Midnight Cowgirl

    August 4, 2013 at 12:46 am

    Love the idea of finding a hobby to do together!

  • Hayley!

    August 4, 2013 at 12:51 am

    These are great tips! My husband have just started texting more because we both missed hearing from each other consistently throughout the day. 🙂

  • Rachael SparkFire

    August 4, 2013 at 12:51 am

    I love the sweet texting idea! I like to do that with post-its and leave little post its around where Anthony is even though we do not live together!

  • kristyn

    August 4, 2013 at 1:15 am

    It's true, it's so hard to stay intentional and invested when our lives are so busy! We are already finding that out this summer. I think you have some awesome tips here–it's definitely important to know when to say no. And the last one is definitely something to work on–probably the most important one 🙂 I think I shared this before on my blog but we have a Love Journal, where we write each other love notes every week and hide it around the house for the other to find. It's kind of romantic and fun, and reminds us to cherish/focus on the little sweet things!

  • Rachel

    August 4, 2013 at 10:35 am

    Usually having random date afternoons or evenings are so important to us. These few weeks are an especially crazy time since he's back in America and working as much overtime as they'll give him…we're just working on successfully scheduling Skype calls right now!

  • Sally

    August 4, 2013 at 7:35 pm

    Good tips! We've found it challenging to have time to just have normal conversations with each other since having a baby. We'll sit out on the deck and have a glass (or two….ish :))) of wine once the baby is asleep.

  • Brooke

    August 4, 2013 at 9:45 pm

    I think that regular date nights are so important. Especially when kids come along and you really don't have time for just each other.

  • Elsha

    August 4, 2013 at 11:02 pm

    #6 is the most important I think 🙂 And we need to do better about dates. Our budget tightened significantly a little while ago so not we need to find cheap dates and we are sucking so far!

  • Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird

    August 5, 2013 at 2:23 pm

    Because we work two different schedules, Izzy and I try to plan out our weeks so that we know when we're going to have time together. It definitely helps us connect as a couple.

    P.S. I'm giving away a $100 gift card to Boxie this week and I would love for you to come and enter!

  • Purposely at Home

    August 5, 2013 at 6:01 pm

    these are great tips. i'll tuck these away for future use. 😉

    hope you're having a happy week.


  • Summer Nicole

    August 8, 2013 at 3:26 am

    So many great points Susannah…I especially love that you guys have a "talking date" and leave technology out of it. So important to have that time of reconnection. And just because you have to plan intimacy sometimes doesn't mean it's not still great. I think planning intimacy has a bad wrap but some seasons of life it needs to be done, and can still be sizzling! 😉 Thanks for a great post!

  • Cleo Rogers

    February 15, 2014 at 9:28 am

    Date night is a must for me. Not too much time out of the house, 2-3 hours is enough a week. We just need some time to be husband and wife, then go back to reality of being papa and mama to our daughter.
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