I Can't Wait to Quit My Job
I guess the title of this post is a little misleading.
To be honest, I enjoy my job. I don’t dread getting up for work in the morning (I had my share of doing THAT for over a year!). I’m thankful I have a job, that I enjoy my coworkers, and that I get to interact with all kinds of people who come in to see the doctors.
I’m not quitting anytime soon.
(If any of my coworkers are reading this, I’m sure they’re breathing a sigh of relief. Sorry to give you a heart attack, girls!)
The thing is, my job is not my passion. I don’t know how people do it, living from weekend to weekend, living to work and not working to live. It really seems like it works for people and that sort of life fulfills them. Maybe the work they do IS their passion. That’s not me.
I had coffee last week with a dear friend and she and I were discussing our jobs. We both were saying how all we want to do is be stay at home wives (since neither of us have kids) and how horrible we feel admitting that. That sounds lazy and selfish.
As we talked, though, we realized that it’s not sitting at home eating bonbons that we’re longing for. We long for purpose and we don’t find that in our current jobs. We find value in things outside our jobs.
We find value in being wives, keeping our homes clean and preparing food for our families – not because it’s “the woman’s job” but because it brings us joy.
We find value in hospitality. We love opening our homes to friends, family, and acquaintances and sharing our lives with others.
We find value in creating with our hands. Time spent on crocheting a scarf, sewing a blanket, or painting a picture is never wasted.
We find value in raising our future children to love the Lord, be good citizens, and discover passions of their own.
We find value in ministry – whether it’s volunteer or paid. We long to love on and serve the church – showing others the love of our Savior.
Yes, I’m thankful for the job I have. I’m blessed to be making money to be able to help pay for Nate’s schooling. I’m grateful for the fun relationships I have with my coworkers.
This is not is for me, though. God has so much more in store for my life. I will not be someone who works weekend to weekend, only enjoying life on my days off.
I don’t know what it’s going to look like but I know I am being molded by God to be used in amazing ways! And, while I’m waiting, I will seize life now and live it up – knowing that each day is a gift from God!
Saxon @ Lets Drink Coffee, Darling
November 19, 2013 at 12:13 pm
Having a job you don't dread going to every morning is such a blessing! I didn't know what that looked like until my most recent job. I've got to say, it has slightly terrified me into having the idea that every job comes with that dreadful feeling – but thanks for reminding me that there ARE those out there where you enjoy your time with your co-workers.
You're right even if it isn't your passion, just that is so much to be thankful for! And I'm like you – I want to work and earn money for our family, but I truly cannot think of what I would do that I actually would be passionate about. I'm sure it will work out in the end, but it is great that you are so content where you are now. 🙂
November 19, 2013 at 1:22 pm
Being a stay at home wife is really rewarding, and it's so great the way you explain it. So many people write it off as lame, but I really do enjoy it, though right now I look forward to finding work outside the house too.
November 19, 2013 at 2:34 pm
So you basically took the words out of my mouth. I completely agree with all of this. And sometimes I feel guilty wanting to be a stay-at-home wife. Of course, I know I am blessed because with my job I do get to stay at home but I have to be careful and make myself work full hours and not get distracted with domestic responsibilities during work hours. I know this job is just a place holder and a means of making money until the hubby gets out of school. Lord willing, when he gets out, he will get a job and we can start a family and I can stay home. I find myself looking forward to that often!
November 19, 2013 at 2:55 pm
I could not identify more with this post. I am so blessed to have a job and to make money to support Parker and I, but it is no way my passion nor does it bring me fulfillment. My passion is to one day be a stay at home wife and mom, and I pray I get to do it!
Veronica Lee Burns
November 19, 2013 at 3:54 pm
wow, yes this is how I feel.
November 19, 2013 at 4:15 pm
Haha your post title made me gasp a bit that you would post it lol I get how you feel though!
November 19, 2013 at 5:07 pm
I totally get you on this. I'm so thankful to have a job that pays decently, I don't dread going to every day (just some days, haha), I enjoy my coworkers and I have a wonderful boss…but at the same time, I don't feel fulfilled in the slightest by working here. It's simply to help pay the mortgage, and that's it. I'm blessed to have it, but I hope I'm blessed to be able to stay at home one day. 😉
November 19, 2013 at 6:08 pm
I just stumbled across this blog and I'm so happy I did! I can really relate here. I live for the weekends and it's so unfulfilling. I know God has a grander picture, but I too yearn to be a stay-at-home mom and wife. It's unfortunate that society makes so many of us feel as if that is 'wrong' when in reality it's a desire to serve your family and create a home life.
Can't wait to read more here 🙂
November 19, 2013 at 6:15 pm
Yes! This is great! I read an excellent take on this recently in "The Feminine Appeal" by Carolyn Mahaney. I highly recommend it. And thanks for your honesty… I think there are many of us who feel the same way – that our calling is higher than our daily job – but aren't bold enough to say it out loud 🙂
November 19, 2013 at 6:16 pm
Hey lady! I'm a new follower from Washington state. 🙂 Do you live in downtown Portland? I'm currently a stay at home mama who give up her teaching career and I love being home to take care of my little family. I think being a stay at home wife would be so awesome as well…I would have loved that. It's too bad that in our generation (and in our country) women are looked down upon for being the care taker of their homes. Traditionally, it is the way we have always done things. Anyway…thanks for sharing your heart on this topic! -Andrea http://www.handandtheheart.com
November 19, 2013 at 6:31 pm
I feel lucky to be able to work for myself. I get to set my schedule and make sure that I'm there for my kids when they are done with school, etc. Of course, it also means I'm working all the time, with breaks for family and life in between. It's hard to find that perfect balance.
November 19, 2013 at 6:45 pm
So many of us women walk this same path. I had the exact same feelings. My desire since college was to be at home. I worked a dead end job for 2 years before I finally had the opportunity. It took time but it was well worth the wait. We still haven't added any kids to the mix but between home, husband and my small business I am busy enough. Thanks for sharing this it was a wonderful reminder of how God works.
November 19, 2013 at 7:12 pm
I think that the mundane can overwhelm us whether we're at home with kids or at work… I'm not married and don't have kids, but I took a year to take care of my little sisters when my mom was sick, and there was a lot of mundaneness there too, except instead of living for the weekend, it was "living until 9 pm when I've put them to bed"! no weekends off. ever. exhausting 🙂 also meaningful. but I think that everything we do we need to try to do with all our heart… there was this monk, Brother Lawrence, who wrote about practicing the presence of God while he washed the dishes for all the other monks… so deep. " in the noise and clatter of my kitchen, while several persons are at the same time calling for different things, I possess God in as great tranquility as if I were upon my knees before the Blessed Sacrament"…
November 19, 2013 at 7:38 pm
I quit working 7 1/2 years ago, at 6 months pregnant with my son, and don't plan to ever go back! I am so blessed to have a husband that also believes in what I do, and works hard to make it possible. I feel just the same as you! Great post! 🙂
Mrs. M ~ a.k.a. ~ April
November 19, 2013 at 7:47 pm
Girl! I could have been in on that conversation! I wrote about that last week. You said it so clearly. PURPOSE! I don't really find that here. I have very rare moments of that at work but I resonate with everything that was said. Thank you!
Mrs. M ~ a.k.a. ~ April
November 19, 2013 at 7:48 pm
Here at work is what I mean..
November 19, 2013 at 8:23 pm
I totally and completely agree! I really do!
Unfortunately, I spent more time surfing Netflix than cleaning as I should have . . . but it is such a blessing to have the freedom to clean when you want, cook as complicated as you want (so many great dishes take time), and be free to serve.
There is such value in being a homemaker, and our society has decided to kind of spit on the idea, that it's sexist or oppressive or lazy or [insert another negative assumption]. It seems to forget the VALUE of it (we all need clean underwear, am I right?), the joy of opening your home or being received into another's, and that, really, some people–yes, even women–THRIVE in that sort of environment. Sure, some are more career minded or need more out-and-about structure/tasks, but that doesn't mean that some of us can't love being a housewife.
Thanks for this post!
November 19, 2013 at 8:42 pm
i know you will make the right choice in all of it. nice to have a job, but doing your passion is SOOO much better!
November 19, 2013 at 8:55 pm
I struggled for a long time, jumping from job to job, looking for my "passion." Eventually I realized a job or a career will NEVER be my passion. That's just not me. Things haven't been perfect since I quit working full time after the baby was born. I still feel, even a year later, like I'm trying to figure out my new role. But unlike before, I don't feel like I need to jump ship and do something different. This is IT. What I was born to do. And that makes me happy everyday (even when I don't have time for a shower).
Stephanie @ Life, Unexpectedly
November 19, 2013 at 9:00 pm
Honestly, I could not imagine being a stay-at-home wife, being at home all day drives me insane. If I could, I'd work part-time, to spend more times with the girls, to be able to cook more, to do more crafts, but I'm thankful that I have a job that fulfills me and lets me earn enough money to support our family…
November 19, 2013 at 9:22 pm
I struggled with the same problem, I was not passionate about the work I was doing and I quit. I haven't worked in quite some time and it has been the greatest gift.
November 19, 2013 at 9:23 pm
It was like you were reading my mind. We all have a purpose whether we think that right now or not.
November 19, 2013 at 9:47 pm
I can relate to this. I do love teaching, but I would love to be able to be home, taking care of my house and my husband, and having time to do things I want and love. When summer rolls around, I still do a TERRIBLE job of this because I just want to enjoy my vacation and store up my energy for the next school year!
I'm so glad that you know that this is God's plan for you, and that you will eventually have the chance to do it! 🙂
November 19, 2013 at 10:26 pm
I understand, ı hope you can find a job that you love soon.
November 19, 2013 at 10:33 pm
I'm also somewhat mystified by those that love their jobs–whose work is their passion. Angel likes his job, but he's not passionate about it and doesn't want to be extra involved in it and spend more hours there like some of his coworkers do. I love the flexibility that being a stay-at-home wife gives me! It's not about laziness–if we needed the money, I'd get a "real" job, but I don't believe in getting tied down to a fixed schedule just to have extra money to throw around. Angel's work has a very unusual schedule and with me not being tied to a job, it means we have the flexibility to serve and travel and accomplish our priorities in life!
November 19, 2013 at 11:59 pm
I feel the same way. I can't wait until we reach our financial goals so I can stay home and take care of my house and family. I am so excited for that point in our lives =)
I love taking care of my family and our house. Sometimes, when our work load allows, I'll use some of my vacation days to just stay home. Even though I'm busy with the house and family obligations, I LOVE it.
So glad to find someone who feels the same way.
November 20, 2013 at 1:27 am
I believe God has us each where we are right now for a purpose. Who know, maybe someone will come to Christ as a result if where you are right now. I hope that helps you to feel purpose in job that lacks passion.
November 20, 2013 at 1:29 am
i couldn't agree with you more. i think any fulltime job demands a lot of energy from us, and if we're not passionate about it, then it feels like we're wasting energy that could be going toward people/activities that we love <3 also, you're going to make a wonderful mom one day 🙂
November 20, 2013 at 1:32 am
Susannah you are brave to say out loud what lots of other women are thinking but won't say because it's not politically correct. My daughter in law was a stay at home wife. Her husband, my son, has a very demanding job and they decided that having her stay home to keep all of that part of their lives under control was what worked best for their family. Lots of people asked her (and even asked me) why she wasn't working. If only we wouldn't judge each other and would accept each other's right to make our own choices! There is value in the workplace and value in the home.
PS Now my daughter in law is a SAHM to one year old twin boys – so now she is REALLY busy!
November 20, 2013 at 2:03 am
I cannot wait to quit my job either. I hate being one of those people who wake up everyday dreading going to the office. I wish I could figure out what I am truly passionate about and a way to achieve it.
Tracy @ Sunny Days and Starry Nights
November 20, 2013 at 2:16 am
I can definitely agree with this!! It really is to bad that our culture views housewives as lazy and not contributing (thanks, real housewives). It takes work, and I think it's totally worthwhile 🙂
November 20, 2013 at 2:31 am
Oh, I definitely feel you here. I'm so worried that once I actually get the job I'm working towards in school, I won't feel as passionate about it as I should. There are many "less practical" things I'd love to do with my life. It's all about going where God guides our hearts and passions!
November 20, 2013 at 3:01 am
Oh girl I completely relate. x10! It's exactly how I felt when I was working full time in an office last year. Before I went to photography full time….I was so thankful for that job, but I just needed to finally follow my passion and do what I was made to do.
November 20, 2013 at 3:11 am
I used to joke that my dream job was to be a stay at home mama to puppies. I feel like I'd really like to be a stay at home housewife, if we had a garden and I was growing our food and taking care of us. But having been unemployed for a long time, I just feel…awful, frankly. Everyday feels like a complete waste because I have no idea when this will end and I can't make any plans because "what if I have a job"
November 20, 2013 at 3:20 am
I've been unemployed for 2 months due to our relocation and i feel so out of place. it sounded like it would be tons of fun for me to be a stay at home housewife but I never expected it to be this long. I don't want to take just any job because I don't want to settle but the day that I can be out, working on my career I'll feel more like I belong here. I know it's strange. But I'm craving the routine and co-workers.
November 20, 2013 at 5:03 am
Amen! I'm with ya girl. I like my job and feel passionate about certain parts of it… But I can't wait to be able to stay home and be a mom and wife. Maybe one day. 🙂
Jennifer – The Deliberate Mom
November 20, 2013 at 4:41 pm
I completely hear you. I worked for many years but felt so much happiness, joy, and purpose when I started staying home. I have joy in serving my family. It is my heart's desire and I feel blessed that God has provided for it.
Wishing you a blessed day.
November 20, 2013 at 9:25 pm
Oh, I know exactly what you mean. I feel like I could have written this. I find so much joy in being at home, taking care of our home and little family. While I was thankful for having a job I couldn't wait for the day when I could stay at home with our little baby. Teaching is great and all, but now I really feel like my life has purpose. You are right though, God will use you where ever you are. He knows what you need.
November 20, 2013 at 9:39 pm
I think it is definitely important to work to live and not to live to work. 🙂
November 20, 2013 at 11:28 pm
Hi! I found you from another blog, but I have to say, this post totally resonates with my heart! I quit my job a few months ago to be home more. I work part time now at a school which is so fun but also allows me to pursue the things God has put on my heart and our house is so much more harmonious! That sounds weird, but really, having me at home more makes a smoother life- for us at least!
I think it's awesome that you're seek to find fulfillment outside of work- I think that's such a huge cultural thing that affects all and I feel like it's so easy to fall into. For me at least 🙂 Happy Wednesday!
November 21, 2013 at 9:59 am
I can TOTALLY relate to this, I am in that exact same place at the moment. I feel God whispering 'this isn't it', my prayers now are just 'when' a year? two years? This feeling is exciting yet scary but I know that this job isn't the end. So comforting to find others who can totally understand the pull and calling to be that 'homemaker' 🙂
November 22, 2013 at 2:20 am
I love this post- and totally relate to the feeling you have! It is almost as if people do not think they have a "family" until they have a kid. The truth is the family unit starts with the husband and wife. I love that you value taking care of your household and husband. Such a lost value! 🙂
November 25, 2013 at 1:57 am
I started staying home a couple of weeks ago and it has been the best thing ever! I worked until i was 31 but now i am beyond blessed to stay home and be a wife and mommy. I look around the house smile and thank the lord and my husband for this opportunity!
November 25, 2013 at 9:16 pm
that is so great 🙂 to be aware of your hopes and dreams and God given passions! I love my job – it is just where the Lord has me and I am so passionate about it! It is a ministry job and that gives me so much purpose and passion – I have such a hard time staying at home! When I am a mother I might feel differently but at this time in my life is it a joy that I am able to work! I love the the Lord created us so uniquely to fulfill the plans He has for each one of us!
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