Strong Women Don't Have to Be Ok!
Every so often I read something on Facebook that makes my blood boil. I know, I probably need to work on being a little less opinionated but I have my passions, ok? Sometimes it’s a blog post someone shared that gets me going, sometimes it’s someone’s status, or sometimes (pretty often) it’s one of those cutsey quotes. Yesterday I read one of those quotes and it made me more frustrated than I’ve been in a while. Maybe you’ve read it too:
A strong woman knows how to keep her life in order, even with tears in her eyes, she still manages to say “I’m ok” with a smile – Author Unknown
HOW CAN ANYONE THINK THIS QUOTE IS INSPIRATIONAL?!?!?!? I mean, really, what is it that makes anyone think that strength means that you have to say you’re ok? How can anyone think that pasting on a smile is the definition of being strong? Affiliate links may be used in this post. Ordering a product through this link may result in a
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Read my full disclosure policy for more details. I don’t keep it a secret that I struggle with depression. My depression does not define me but it is something I deal with throughout my every day life. My depression is not something I hide or cover up with a smile. I certainly do not say “I’m ok” when my depression is at its worst. For so long I would have read this quote and nodded my head. In the eyes of this quote I was the epitome of strength. I hid my emotions in the sand and, smiling, told everyone that I was “ok.” I looked ok. I acted ok. I “had my life in order.” In reality, though, I was a fake. I was terrified of the truth. I felt that admitting my depression was weakness. Ladies, lying to ourselves is not strength! Many of you do not struggle with depression like I do. Some of you are recovering from a breakup. Some of you are struggling with health problems. Some of you are just in a funk. Some of you may truly are ok and that is WONDERFUL. You should rejoice in that! But, if you’re not ok, you need embrace that and be honest! Instead of “keeping our lives in order” we need to turn to the Lord who is the One to keep our lives in order. We need to be willing to admit to Him, ourselves, and others that we’re NOT ok. Jesus is the ultimate Strength and He is the one to lift us up and make us strong in His power. He is the One who holds our lives in order – NOT US! Our tears are a sacrifice to the Lord – He collects them in a bottle and numbers each one. Strength is admitting that we’re not ok and falling on our face in front of Jesus! Strength is admitting our weaknesses. Strength is accepting that we cannot hold ourselves together and, instead, surrounding ourselves in His strength. Is your heart touched by this idea? I would love to recommend you reading the book Strong Women, Soft Hearts. It touched my life in an amazing way while my walls were being torn down. Please read it and let the Lord work in your life, freeing you from the bondage of hiding your pain. Your Turn:
What are your initial thoughts about this quote?
Where are you finding your strength?